It is sometimes discouraging to see so many marriages that are in turmoil, and it is especially disappointing to see them end up in a messy divorce. You may ask, then, how can I save my marriage? There are several solutions that will require both partners to be in agreement with each other in order to save their marriage. If there is a lot of confusion and playing the 'blame game' in the relationship, the you need a mediator.
Consider choosing a good Christian pastor that has been trained in marriage counseling or a marriage counselor that holds to traditional family values. You should only think about filing for a divorce when you have exhausted all other options
In addition to counseling, there are a number of additional steps you can take to save your marriage. It doesn't have to be a complicated process. All it requires is for both of you to be willing to work toward a common goal.
Here are four things that you can start doing to "save my marriage" and improve the odds of successfully saving your relationship and avoiding divorce.
First, know that there is no such thing as a perfect marriage. Whenever two people stay together for any length of time, there will be problems. This is especially true in a marriage relationship. There are a few issues that can get out of control and destroy your marriage, if they are not taken care of. For the marriage to be successful, you must learn how to deal with the rough spots and overcome them.
If you expect a perfect marriage, you will never be satisfied. Both of you will make mistakes,and hurt each others feelings. Learn to work with your partner and overcome the problems you face. You will soon realize it is possible to "save my marriage" and be happy together.
Second, you must learn to talk with each other. When communications are lacking the marriage is going to have some serious problems. The most important thing is to be honest with your partner and don't be afraid to say what you think or how you feel about an issue. Of course, always be polite and kind to each other Most all issues and problems can be solved if you learn to truly listen to what your mate is saying and keep the communication lines open.
The third tip is to learn how to compromise. If both of you learn to consider the others needs above your own you can always work out your problems and build a strong marriage. True love is sacrificial.
A good marriage is about patience, kindness and compromise, and knowing that there are times when both of you will need to 'go the extra mile' or give more that 50% to make the relationship work.
Fourth, marriage is about commitment. In our society commitment is almost a forgotten word. When you say 'I do', you should commit to your husband/wife to be the best partner you can be. Don't even mention the d______ word when you have disagreements. Just say I will "save my marriage", and do it!
Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, your mate will not cooperate. If major issues such as drugs, porn, gambling, and drinking are destroying your marriage, there may be no other way but to file for divorce. But, many times, with a lot of love and patience, and professional counseling, you can still work things out. Then you can truly say, I learned how to "save my marriage."